Hello everyone, I hope you are all well.
“Previously on The Saga Continuous” (In Morgan Freeman’s voice, I’ve always wanted to do this hehe) we discussed 8 Steps to self-care and in the post I promised to expound more on the second step which is LOVE.
Love ❤️ ahhhhhh people claim it makes the world go ’round. But does it? Does it always make us feel all warm and fuzzy inside? Or does it at times cause us problems in our relationships? Rare are the people who can find genuine, pure love. There are many types of love, and every one of them can make you happy if it is real. We shouldn’t link love only to the love that we feel toward our partner but toward other people.
To understand this topic a bit better, I decided to discuss about each type of love and how they impact your life.
- Agape — Unconditional Love
This is an altruistic (kind or generous), selfless, unconditional love, that doesn’t have anything to do with desires or interests. Christians believe Jesus exhibited agape love for all humans by being selfless and sacrificing Himself for others to be rid of their sins. He suffered for the happiness of others. If you can give this kind of love, you will be spiritually clean, and your mental and physical health will improve. Love Catalyst: Spirit
2. Eros — Romanic Love
Eros is coined from the Greek god of love and fertility and is linked with romantic, passionate, and physical love. It is an expression of sexual passions and desires. In this phase of love, people tend to lose their minds and can’t control what they do. They are willing to do anything for the person they love without much thought of the consequences. When you get to feel this kind of love, you’ll feel like never before in your life, and everything will finally make sense. However, caution should be taken in this period to avoid ending up with a broken heart. Love catalyst: The physical body
3. Philia — Affectionate Love
Philia can be defined as “affectionate love; it is the kind of love that you feel for your friends, often referred to as “platonic love” love without sexual acts. Ancients Greeks thought this kind of love was better than eros (sexual love), as it represented love between people who considered themselves equals. Plato argued that physical attraction wasn’t needed for love. Only real friends can experience this kind of love and expect nothing in return for doing so. Which reminds me of a song titled Real friends by Kanye West https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h4Jy9c_gF90. Love Catalyst: The mind
4. Philautia — Self-love
Philautia is self-love. Nowadays, people associate self-love with being narcissistic, selfish, or stuck on themselves. Self-love is not harmful or unhealthy, it’s necessary to be able to give and receive love from other people. We can’t give other people what we don’t possess. If you can’t love yourself, how can you genuinely love others? This kind of love tends to develop when you are mature, and when you can say that you comprehend life, you will feel it and the peace it brings. Love Catalyst: Soul
5. Storge — Familiar Love
Storge can be defined as “familiar love” 👨👩👦👦 👩👩👦👦 👨👨👦👦. It is similar to philia – the affectionate love that exists among friends. However, it is more like a parent-child love, there is no physical or sexual attraction. But a strong bond, kinship, and familiarity exist between people. It is the type of love a mother feels for her child regardless of what the child becomes. Love Catalyst: Causal (Memories)
6. Pragma — Enduring Love
Pragma is defined as “enduring love.” it’s the opposite of eros (sexual love) that tends to burn out fast because of its passion and intensity. However, pragma is a love that has developed and matured over a long time bringing only harmony and happiness in one’s life. You can spot this love in old couples who have been together for a long time. This love is rare to find – in society today. Nowadays, people seem to think the grass is always greener on the other side; therefore, they don’t have the patience or the desire to watch love grow over time. Love Catalyst: Etheric (Unconscious)
7. Ludus — Playful Love
Ludus is known as the “playful love” better described as the feeling of infatuation in the early days of romance. If you’ve been in love before, I know you know what I’m talking about. It’s the butterflies in your stomach, the giddiness you feel when you see your love walk through the door, and you never want to be without them. Studies show that when people experience this type of love, their brains act much as it does on cocaine. This love makes you feel alive and excited about life. However, this type of love can be impulsive and full of different feelings, such as anger, neediness, obsession, anxiety, and depression. This kind of love is not mature and can end up being ugly. Love Catalyst: Astral (Emotion)
8. Mania — Obsessive Love
Mania is defined as obsessive love and can lead to insanity (yes, madness), jealousy, and anger. Reason being that the balance between eros (sexual love) and Ludus (playful love) is off. People are addicted to their partners so much to the degree that they don’t have a social life outside of the relationship. It usually happens to young partners with zero love experience. Love Catalyst: Survival instinct.
We are all students of love, and there are many types of love. It’s good to talk about love, and when loving, please remember:
- Resist ‘Mania.’
- Don’t just seek ‘Eros’ – it usually ends badly.
- Nurture ‘Philia’ by spending more time with friends and family.
- Pursue ‘Pragma’ for long-lasting relationships.
- Indulge in ‘Storge,’ let your maternal and paternal instincts out. For any lonely souls, get yourself a dog or a cat.
- Exercise ‘Philautia‘ to stay away from stress, anxiety, and depression.
- Finally, though hard, try to seek ‘Agape.’
That’s all from me today hope this information will help you approach relationships differently. Stay safe and stay healthy.
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